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I became a millionaire overnight — and quickly realized that extreme wealth is overrated

I grew up lower middle class on the outskirts of Copenhagen. Anywhere outside of Scandinavia, the socioeconomic label would probably have been "poor," but Danish safety nets and support systems did their best to suspend the facts and offer better.

Today I'm a millionaire. I helped start a company called Basecamp, and 10 years ago Jeff Bezos paid my co-founder and me a few million dollars for a minority, no-control stake of our share of the company. (Basecamp had been self-funded and profitable from the start, so it didn't need any capital for the venture.)

There were always more things I wanted to do than money to buy them

Don't worry: This isn't a rags-to-riches story. I loathe the I-did-it-all-by-myself heroic myth-mongering. I got where I am thanks to government-sponsored maternity leave, child care, health care, education, and even cash assistance. I grew up in housing provided by AAB, a union-founded affordable housing association. And my mother was a damn magician at making impossible ends meet without belaboring her tricks (like biking an extra 15 minutes to find the lowest price on milk).

I took away two important lessons from this upbringing. First, as long as your basic needs are met, your happiness is only vaguely related to material success. While it wasn't all roses and butter cookies, I had a great childhood. Second, I wouldn't learn to appreciate the truth of the first lesson until I saw the other side of the golden fence.

"What would you do if you won a million kroner?"

I played the "What would you do if you won a million kroner?" game with my brother many times when we were growing up. We could spend eons making fantasy purchases. Could you imagine not having to save up a whole year to buy a Commodore 64? Or to fly away on a foreign-country vacation every year? Or to  —  let's go crazy here  —  buy a car for the family? (The sky setting those limits was barely higher than the Eiffel tower).

The underlying premise to these imaginary indulgences was how much better life would be if we were free from the constraints of our humble weekly allowance. Man, everything would just be so great if only I could...

The author in the middle, wearing homemade clothing to go with his homemade ninja weapons. (David Heinemeier Hansson)

As I grew older, this game was always at the back of my mind. There were always more things I wanted to do than money to buy them. It wasn't that working toward certain material goals was that challenging. My good fortune of being born in Denmark provided for the basics, and selling pirate software CDs through my Elite BBS contacts provided some modest splendor.

But there was always an appetite for more, and a belief that just a little extra was going to be the tipping point for eternal bliss. Dreaming of an Amiga 1200, making it happen, and then thinking, "Oh, what I really needed was that Amiga 4000."

Becoming a millionaire: euphoria—then a crisis

Then in 2006, it happened: Bezos bought his stake in Basecamp, and I was a millionaire.

I remember the weeks leading up to that day when my checking account suddenly swelled dramatically. They were anxious. I stood at the doorsteps of the Dream. A lifetime of expectations about how totally, utterly awesome it would be to be a millionaire. I'd be able to buy all the computers and cameras I ever wanted, any car I desired!

One of the other underlying pillars of this dream was the concept of never having to work again. Like somehow an eternity of leisure was going to provide the existential bliss I had been longing for all along. I thought about that a lot. I did all the math: Hey, if I stuff all the money into a prudent mix of stock and bonds, I should be able to live a comfortable, if not extravagant, lifestyle until the end of my days without lifting another finger.

The euphoria I felt when it was finally real lasted the rest of the day. The inner smile remained super wide for at least the rest of the week.

Then a mild crisis of faith ensued. Is this it? Why isn't the world any different now? *shake, shake* Is this thing even working?!

Now, don't get me wrong: There is an enduring and very real satisfaction and comfort in never having to look at the price of a meal in a restaurant again (even though I still do). But like a good movie that's been hyped to the hills, it's almost impossible not to be let down when you finally see it. Expectations, not outcomes, govern our happiness.

For the first few months, I barely touched any of the money. Sure, I bought a big-screen TV and more DVD box sets than I could hope to consume, but it wasn't like I couldn't have done that before anyway. It wasn't until near the end of that year I finally drew down on the account of clichéd purchases: a yellow Lamborghini! While it was all very nice, very wonderful, it didn't, as we say, really move the needle of deep satisfaction.

Common fallacy of wealth: "I’ve never seen an unhappy person driving a Lamborghini." (David Heinemeier Hansson)

What kept moving the needle, though, was programming Rubybuilding Basecamp, writing for Signal v. Noisetaking pictures, and enjoying all the same avenues of learning and entertainment my already privileged lifestyle had afforded me for years in advance.

If anything, I began to appreciate even more intently that flow and tranquility were my true sources of happiness all along. It was like I had pulled back the curtain on that millionaire's dream and found, to my surprise, that most of the things on the other side were things I already had. Equal parts shock and awe, but ultimately deeply reassuring.

Chiefly because I couldn't lose those things. Barring any grand calamity, I could afford to fall off the puffy pink cloud of cash and I'd land where I started: back in that 450-square-foot apartment in Copenhagen, with my interests and curiosity intact and my passions as fit as ever. I traveled across a broad swath of the first-world spectrum of wealth, and both ends were not only livable but enjoyable. That was a revelation.

I remember rich people trying to tell me this before I was rich. Not necessarily in person, but through clever or modest-profound quotes and interviews. And I remember always thinking, "Yeah, that's easy for you to say now  —  you got yours." It's not lost on me that most people reading this will probably feel the same. It's just the natural, instinctive reaction.

Primarily because I think it's scary to think This Is It. This is what I've got. Changing the numbers on my bank account or the size of TV or the make of the car in the garage or the zip code isn't going to complete me. I have to figure that shit out on my own.

The buzz of wealth does not last. Here's what does.

I get that even having the pretext to contemplate such disillusionment is an incredible privilege, beyond sympathy or even empathy of many in this world. I never went hungry to bed. I never feared getting shot. I never worried whether the end of my future prospects would be as a store clerk working minimum wage. The Danish experience shielded me from all those concerns of basic safety and comfort. So I won't even pretend to know that struggle.

I can only speak to the experience I did have. The one I do share with millions of people who have the basics taken care of, but who still yearn for the treasure perceived to be behind the curtain. For those who might contemplate giving up all manner of integrity, dignity, or even humanity to pull it back.

We humans acclimate to our surroundings incredibly quickly. The buzz is not going to last. Until you realize the next rung of the ladder isn't where salvation hides, the siren song will keep playing.

"The best things in life are free. The second best things are very, very expensive." Coco Chanel

While this quote rings true, I'd add that the difference between the best things and the second-best things is far, far greater than the difference between the second-best things and the 20th-best things. It's not a linear scale.

Once you've taken care of the basics, there's very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring. Whether you know it or not, you've likely already found or at least seen the very best things. Make them count.

David Heinemeier Hansson is the creator of Ruby on Rails, founder and CTO at Basecamp (formerly 37signals), the New York Times best-selling author of Rework and Remote, and a Le Mans class-winning racing driver. You can follow him on Twitter, Medium, and Instagram.

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